Albinism and a mother’s vision – Amy’s story

Our little angel, Neva, was diagnosed with Albinism at just three months of age.  Albinism is a rare genetic condition which affects one in 17,000 babies born each year worldwide. It affects both the skin (little or no melanin) and eyesight. This means a lifetime of sun protection (not so difficult with our Australian sun smart culture!)  But it…
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Is He a Good Baby?

‘Is he a good baby?’ they asked me. ‘Yes, he’s a wonderful baby,’ I told them. What did they think I would say: ‘No, he’s a real dud, but they wouldn’t give me a refund’? Then they asked me, ‘Does he sleep all night?’ Oops, they had me there. My baby had failed and so had I. I was an innocent then. He was my firstborn. I hadn’t ever related…
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Unmasked at the pool

‘We’ll meet at the pool,’ they said. ‘Bring your bathers.’ They were twenty-something mums. I was a forty-something mum with a ‘bonus baby’ (the baby you have when your other ones are big enough to tie their own shoelaces, run their own baths or even drive their own cars). I used to be a twenty-something mum. I used to spend most of the summer at…
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Networking the mother ‘hood’

Joining the Mother ‘Hood’ offers a whole new dimension to the concept of ‘networking’. Although it probably won’t help you raise any glass ceilings, your mothering network may prevent you from sliding into a downward spiral towards isolation and despair. If you don’t yet have a baby, it is all too easy to underestimate how vulnerable you can…
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Eliminate Stress and Hectic Schedules by Planning Your Day

The only real certainty in your toddler’s life is that there are changes every day: there is so much development going on for your child that even in a stable, consistent environment her world will be ever-evolving as she learns new skills and makes new discoveries. Toddlers feel safe and secure when they know what they can count on, and where…
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Crying Cures – 15 ways to soothe the sobs

Crying is your baby's language. At first, it is pretty much the only way an infant can communicate his needs and express feelings like discomfort, hunger, exhaustion and loneliness. It is also the only way he can release pent up stress.  As your baby grows he will learn other ways to communicate—through facial expressions, body language and,…
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An ad man’s woman

'I knew I’d be a perfect mother. And my perfect baby would be a credit to my perfect mothering. I knew, too, that I would never ‘let myself go’ – that I would always be immaculately groomed and, eventually, surrounded by a whole family of perfectly clean, perfectly behaved children and a perfectly adoring husband in a gleaming, perfectly…
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Confronting your critics

A crying or demanding child (or simply a different style of parenting) is like a green light for other people to become experts about your kid. Judgement and criticism – whether direct or indirect – can chip away at your resolve and make you feel vulnerable so that it becomes a challenge to ‘roll with the punches’. But with practice you can become…
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Planning your ‘baby moon’

I find it quite astonishing that people will spare no expense or effort to plan an elaborate wedding and a romantic honeymoon and yet the greatest change of life – having a baby- is often expected to be a mere ‘blip on the radar’ that should fit into an already busy schedule. In fact, many couples assume that this time will be a great opportunity…
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Access, the law and a breastfed baby

Today,  I was called to advocate in court (in my capacity as an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant)  for an illiterate migrant woman who had her baby removed whilst a patient in a psychiatric ward. This poor mama had been fully breastfeeding her 4 month old when she reported that she had been raped. While in a police station the…
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