When girlfriends become mummies

“We were friends for about five years before we had babies -we worked together and at weekends we partied together. Later, we spent holidays together with our respective partners. Then we had children.  As we have journeyed through pregnancies and into parenthood, the differences between our styles of parenting are so glaringly obvious that it's…
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5 steps to a greener baby

1. Grow your own Not only is breastfeeding your baby protective against illness, it is the ultimate home grown,  natural resource!  Consider the fuel needed to produce infant formula – from producing milk and transporting it to processing a finished packaged product and transporting it to stores, as well as chemicals used for…
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Managing your mother-in-law

You may have heard a million jokes about mother-in-laws, but when it comes to dealing with your own, up close and personal, especially when you become a parent, it isn’t easy to see the funny side.  Unfortunately, we can’t choose our in-laws – they come as part of the package along with the person we fall in love with. And, here lies the…
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Helping your baby enjoy tummy time

You've likely heard that ‘tummy time’ is important for babies to learn to push up and eventually crawl. But what can you do if your baby cries whenever you try to put her on her tummy? Some babies love playing on their tummies and may even prefer it to being on their backs. Other babies, for whatever reason, just don’t like it and may need a…
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Should you breastfeed your baby to sleep?

Among  all the rules about baby sleep, you are certain to hear advice to never, ever allow your baby to fall asleep on the breast! Although you may like to use other sleep cues as well as breastfeeding, advice that letting your baby fall asleep on the breast will create ‘bad habits’ or that he will never learn to ‘self settle’  is unrealistic and…
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Go the F— to Sleep – funny or not?

A new book for parents (definitely not for children!), ‘Go the F— to Sleep’ has been lauded as a ‘publishing sensation’. A parody of a lullaby-based children’s book laced with the ‘Eff’ word, this delightfully illustrated book by Adam Mansbach, a Rutgers University creative writing teacher, was inspired by Mansburg’s struggle to…
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Don’t let anybody ‘should’ on you

I have just returned from visiting another lovely, intelligent mother who is doing a wonderful job with her baby, but is convinced she must be doing ‘everything wrong’. She feels guilty that she has messed up her baby’s early days (she hasn’t at all!); she feels inadequate because (she thinks) she can’t read her baby’s cues (she is making…
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Bonding with your baby – growing the love bug

For some It's overwhelming 'love at first sight': "The moment I met Olivia ‘on the outside’ I thought, “Of course it’s you!” and fell instantly and totally in love with her. It was a total Earth Mother, mother lioness reaction, and one I could never have imagined the intensity of nor described before it happened. I was suddenly and absolutely…
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Access, the law and a breastfed baby

Today,  I was called to advocate in court (in my capacity as an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant)  for an illiterate migrant woman who had her baby removed whilst a patient in a psychiatric ward. This poor mama had been fully breastfeeding her 4 month old when she reported that she had been raped. While in a police station the…
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Speaking up

“Can you come and see me, pleeeease?”  Alison was sobbing down the phone. When I had seen her as an antenatal client she was strong, capable and pro-active about being prepared for becoming a mum. Now, she was vulnerable, teary and awash with post birth hormones. Being in hospital with ‘helpful’ people prodding her body was an experience…
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