Should you breastfeed your baby to sleep?

Among  all the rules about baby sleep, you are certain to hear advice to never, ever allow your baby to fall asleep on the breast! Although you may like to use other sleep cues as well as breastfeeding, advice that letting your baby fall asleep on the breast will create ‘bad habits’ or that he will never learn to ‘self settle’  is unrealistic and…
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Go the F— to Sleep – funny or not?

A new book for parents (definitely not for children!), ‘Go the F— to Sleep’ has been lauded as a ‘publishing sensation’. A parody of a lullaby-based children’s book laced with the ‘Eff’ word, this delightfully illustrated book by Adam Mansbach, a Rutgers University creative writing teacher, was inspired by Mansburg’s struggle to…
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Don’t let anybody ‘should’ on you

I have just returned from visiting another lovely, intelligent mother who is doing a wonderful job with her baby, but is convinced she must be doing ‘everything wrong’. She feels guilty that she has messed up her baby’s early days (she hasn’t at all!); she feels inadequate because (she thinks) she can’t read her baby’s cues (she is making…
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Bonding with your baby – growing the love bug

For some It's overwhelming 'love at first sight': "The moment I met Olivia ‘on the outside’ I thought, “Of course it’s you!” and fell instantly and totally in love with her. It was a total Earth Mother, mother lioness reaction, and one I could never have imagined the intensity of nor described before it happened. I was suddenly and absolutely…
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Access, the law and a breastfed baby

Today,  I was called to advocate in court (in my capacity as an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant)  for an illiterate migrant woman who had her baby removed whilst a patient in a psychiatric ward. This poor mama had been fully breastfeeding her 4 month old when she reported that she had been raped. While in a police station the…
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Speaking up

“Can you come and see me, pleeeease?”  Alison was sobbing down the phone. When I had seen her as an antenatal client she was strong, capable and pro-active about being prepared for becoming a mum. Now, she was vulnerable, teary and awash with post birth hormones. Being in hospital with ‘helpful’ people prodding her body was an experience…
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