responsive settling

We all have sleep associations, we don’t bat an eyelid about our own quirks or needs around what helps us sleep. Yet, with even a very young baby, there is pressure to ‘teach your baby to self-settle’ – to fall asleep without any help from you.

My stinging sleep deprived eyes would well up as I detailed my baby's wakeful habits and I'd cop the standard lines of, 'have you tried swaddling', 'putting him down drowsy but awake', 'bedtime routine', 'listen for his protest cry it's different to his emotional cry', 'it's because you're still feeding him', 'you need to not hold him, you've built…